As a care minister, I have spent most of my adult life working with people who need physical and emotional healing. I have spent countless… Read More »8 epic truths that physical wounds can show us about emotional healing.
What can we do to help others and ourselves when grief is unbearable, especially now when we seem to be suffering from an endless series of escalating losses?
Why should you listen to what I say about male sexual abuse survivors? That’s an excellent question, and I’m glad you asked. I am a… Read More »MALE SEXUAL ABUSE SURVIVORS: 7 Interesting differences between the genders.
You’ve undoubtedly read many stories concerning sexual abuse in the Church, but you’ve probably read a lot less about sexual abuse and the Church. The… Read More »Sexual Abuse and the Church: 21 ways to help and not harm
Sometimes the legal system’s pursuit of justice and the Church’s emphasis on forgiveness can cause them both to neglect the rights of victims. Give me a few minutes and I will show you what I mean.
The use of non-disclosure agreements by Christian ministries has come under scrutiny due to their misuse in covering up financial and sexual scandals. I wonder what Jesus would think about the use of non-disclosure agreements in the church today?
You might object if I told you that your story matters and needs to be shared. However, I believe that there are four compelling reasons why this true.
I know that it might sound strange, but sometimes gallows humor can empower abuse survivors and others to manage the stress of a seemingly hopeless situation
Why do we feel lonely? If you’re like most of us, you’ve had this silent dialogue with yourself. Why do I feel lonely? Why, despite… Read More »Why do we feel lonely? 4 Common causes and powerful solutions
Some people believe that writing an apology letter is a waste of time. They quickly point out three perceived errors in the process. One, writing… Read More »AN APOLOGY LETTER: MOST PEOPLE MAKE THESE 6 STUNNING MISTAKES
Deadly silence. That is the sound heard in many churches when faced with emotional abuse, domestic violence, and sexual abuse. I know there are exceptions. Some… Read More »DEADLY SILENCE OF THE CHURCH ON ABUSE: 5 SINFUL EXCUSES.
Do you know the difference between a sexual assault survivor and sexual abuse survivor? These two terms have been in the news prominently in the… Read More »SEXUAL ASSAULT AND SEXUAL ABUSE SURVIVOR 101: what you need to know
Church Pastors are in desperate need of five things, and it isn’t your money. They need a protected day of rest, deeper connections, constructive feedback, fellow peacemakers, and grace-extenders.
You may feel like love is broken beyond repair. But what is broken can be restored. The remedy for your broken heart is a heart that is broken for yours.
Can we talk about faith and mental illness? You may know someone with a mental illness that has been hurt by a well-meaning but ill-equipped… Read More »FAITH AND MENTAL ILLNESS 13 THINGS YOU NEED TO KNOW TODAY.
I found powerful and surprising insights from my involvement in sexual abuse support groups. I had assumed that Sexual Abuse Support Groups would typically divide… Read More »Powerful Insights found in My Sexual Abuse Support Groups.
“DO JUSTICE LOVE MERCY. ” You may have heard the phrase at a protest rally or church or seen it on a t-shirt or billboard. You may… Read More »Understanding The Truth Of Micah’s 6:8 “Do Justice Love Mercy.”
I gave my first American Red Cross donation of blood at the start of the pandemic in 2020 and experienced the six principles of care… Read More »6 Principles of care learned from an American red cross donation
As a Care Pastor, I’ve had the privilege of ministering to many individuals dealing with spiritual crises and mental health issues. I have listened to them,…
What is Church Hurt? It is the emotional, spiritual, and physical harm caused by a church to others, regardless of intent. This harm could result from… Read More »What is church hurt? help in loving, not harming the wounded