most wonderful time of the year

Is It The Most Wonderful Time Of The Year?

Is this the most wonderful time of the year? For some people this is the happiest time of the year, while for others it is the saddest time of the year. Why are some sad at Christmas? What practical steps can we take to help the happiest and saddest people in the world? What things should we avoid? Can we find humor and inspiration in this holiday season?

For some, this is unquestionably the most wonderful time of the year.

They are caught up in the sights and sounds of Christmas. They look forward to seeing their families. They are in good health. They are looking forward to the birth of a new child.

They have little, if any, financial stress. They may not have everything that they want, but their needs are met by a healthy margin.

They have a perpetual smile on their face as they hustle from store to store, confident in their choices, and full of good cheer.

Their seasonal soundtrack is “It’s The Most Wonderful Time Of The Year” sung by Andy Williams.

Here are the lyrics and a link to the video to refresh your memory.

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most wonderful time of the year

“It’s the most wonderful time of the year.
With the kids jingle belling,
And everyone telling
you be of good cheer.
It’s the most wonderful time of the year.


It’s the hap-happiest season of all.
With those holiday greetings and gay happy meetings,
When friends come to call.
It’s the hap-happiest season of all.


There’ll be parties for hosting,
Marshmallows for toasting,
And caroling out in the snow.
There’ll be scary ghost stories,
And tales of the glories of,
Christmases long, long ago.


It’s the most wonderful time of the year.
There’ll be much mistltoeing,
And hearts will be glowing,
When loved ones are near.


It’s the most wonderful time of the year.
There’ll be parties for hosting,
Marshmallows for toasting,
And caroling out in the snow.
There’ll be scary ghost stories,
And tales of the glories of,
Christmases long, long ago.


It’s the most wonderful time of the year.
There’ll be much mistltoeing,
And hearts will be glowing,
When love ones are near.
It’s the most wonderful time,
Yes the most wonderful time,
Oh the most wonderful time
Of the year.”

But for some, this is clearly not the most wonderful time of the year.

The sights and sounds of Christmas are blinding and deafening. The thought of seeing family makes them nauseated. They worry about loved ones they will not see this Christmas.

They are experiencing their first Christmas with the recent death of a loved one. They, or someone close to them, is fighting cancer and wondering if this might be their last Christmas to celebrate.

They are experiencing financial anxiety. Every gift they buy leaves less for day to day living expenses. They would be overjoyed if they could just meet their essential needs of shelter and food.

They are annoyed and mystified by the joyful shopper, but soldier on with a weary smile, that covers the sadness they deeply feel.

Their version of “It’s The Most Wonderful Time Of The Year” might sound like this:

“It’s the most miserable time of the year.
With the Facebook comparing,
And everyone sharing,
The bargains are here.
It’s the most miserable time of the year.


It’s the sad-saddest season of all.
When those packages are opened,
with half already broken,
And returns lined up against the wall.
It’s the sad-saddest season of all.


There’ll be parties for schmoozing,
Martini’s for boozing,
And grilling steaks out in the cold.
There’ll be great hunting stories,
And Dreams of gridiron glory,
Holiday football never gets old!


It’s the most miserable time of the year.
There’ll be much caterwauling,
And voices complaining,
When loved ones are near.
It’s the most miserable time of the year.


There’ll be parties for schmoozing
Martini’s for boozing,
And grilling steaks out in the cold.
There’ll be great hunting stories,
And Dreams of gridiron glory, 
Holiday football never gets old.


It’s the most miserable time of the year.
With the Facebook comparing,
And everyone sharing,
The bargains are here.
It’s the most miserable time,
Yes the most miserable time,
Oh the most miserable time,
Of the year.”

Chances are, that, at one time or the other, you had spent time in both groups. What practical steps can be taken to help each group, and what should be avoided?

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What can you do to make it feel like the most wonderful time of the year?

  • Be sensitive to the feelings of others. Not everyone is feeling great at Christmas.
  • Some people’s sadness will be apparent to everyone.
  • But the person who is the life of the party may be heartbroken as well.
  • Giving permission to be real and honest about how we feel is often the greatest gift we can give.

If you are hosting a Christmas gathering here is a practical strategy to consider.


1. Take a moment to acknowledge the loss of loved ones. This is often the proverbial elephant in the room.The subject that will make or break the Christmas celebration.
Consider celebrating a life well lived, a hope for the future, or a precious life giving shared memory that the group can relate too in the loss of a loved one.

2. Then move forward to focusing on those that are present. Thank them for coming. Let them know how honored and happy you are that they are your guests.
Don’t make anyone feel that it’s not Christmas because someone is not there. It subtly communicates that those who are present are of less value than those who are missing.
Celebrating those that are present, does not dishonor those who are absent.

3. Take a moment to imagine those who will someday be a part of the family, whether by birth, marriage, or deep friendship. The joys and hopes they will bring into the family in the future.

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A humorous list of things not to do at Christmas time.

In the hopes of bringing peace to all men, here is a humerous list of things to not do at Christmas with your family.

  • Drink too much at the in-laws.
  • Try to move the Christmas Tree or the location of next year’s celebration.
  • Discuss spoilers to a big movie that others haven’t seen.
  • Try to resolve complex family squabbles.
  • Discuss your political views.
  • Try to sell a product to friends and extended family. 
  • Re-gift something to the same side of the family.
  • Eat a fruitcake without knowing it’s  expiration date.
  • Tell someone how much you hate getting socks every year.
  • Baby pictures.
  • Ask the newlyweds when they are going to start a family.
  • Let the oldest people in the house do all the preparation and cleanup for the party.
  • Let the youngest children play with matches.
  • Gossip loud enough that everyone can hear. 
  • Eat so much you dominate the only bathroom in the house.
  • Ask when the single people are getting married.
  • Forget to bring batteries for the new unwrapped toys.
  • Start any sentence with the phrase, “When I was your age…” 
  • Play cards or any board game without a time limit on each individual’s turn. 
  • Ask when you will finally be old enough to sit at the adult table.
  •  Announce that you will be out of the country for Christmas next year.
  • Don’t volunteer your family to work at the soup kitchen tomorrow without consulting the participants.
  • Bringing additional uninvited guests without asking the host first.
  • Be four hours late for the meal, when you are bringing the featured dish.
  • Please note that any resemblance to any family living or dead is strictly coincidental. This just feels like a description of your family.

Some possible inspiration.

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most wonderful time of the year singing
  • Here are the lyrics to a song I wrote for my daughter several years ago. The title is, “When I say Jesus, what do you see?” 

“Forced in by the cold of winter.
Held in by the weight of it’s snow.
My wife and I, search for things to do,
As we watch the fireplace glow.


With tiny little movements,
almost to small to see.
The kids begin to draw,
What they can touch and see.
Then my Little girl in wonder looks at me.
“Daddy, when I say Jesus, what do you see?”


When I say Jesus, what do you see?”
A baby in a manager, or a savior hanging on Calvary?
A resurrected Lord, or a conquering King,
when I say Jesus, when I say Jesus,
what do you see?”


With words I can paint pictures,
Of things as yet unseen.
Yet my words they fail, to capture all,
The glories of my Lord and King.


With each word and every movement,
In each and every day.
My little girl sees Jesus,
in what I do and what I say, And when the world in wonder looks at me,
I hope they see Jesus living through me.

When I say Jesus, what do you see?”
A baby in a manager, or a savior hanging on Calvary?
A resurrected Lord, or a conquering King,
when I say Jesus, when I say Jesus,
what do you see?”

Words and music by Darrell Proctor
All copyrights reserved. 1999.

The most wonderful time of the year, begins by celebrating the most wonderful birth. Merry Christmas.

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