As men, we can live our lives in the pursuit of power, fame, fortune, and comfort. Yet these pursuits can be meaningless. Without healthy relationships and the ability to enjoy them, they are of little value.
Real love is the most valuable commodity we will ever have or experience. But, as men, we can be uncomfortable discussing the subject.
Medical Science has confirmed there are real health benefits from supportive relationships.
According to the Harvard Medical School,” Dozens of studies have shown that people who have social support from family, friends, and their community are happier, have fewer health problems, and live longer.
Conversely, a relative lack of social ties is associated with depression and later-life cognitive decline, as well as with increased mortality. One study, which examined data from more than 309,000 people, found that lack of strong relationships increased the risk of premature death from all causes by 50% — an effect on mortality risk roughly comparable to smoking up to 15 cigarettes a day, and greater than obesity and physical inactivity.”
Love Is Broken and It Can Hurt.
We know that love can hurt. We have experienced rejection, shame, fear, sexual abuse, addiction, PTSD and mental illnesses.
We know that we can hurt others. The #METOO movement has made men aware of how we have hurt women.
As men, we are horrified that someone would intentionally physically attack a woman. We want justice for the victim. We might want the abuser to be hurt with the same severity.
But as men, we need to be aware of how we can unintentionally hurt a woman. How we speak about a woman affects how we treat a woman. How we speak to a woman affects how she views herself.
As men, we know how we have hurt our families and others. We may have been an absentee father, an ungrateful husband, a disloyal friend, or an emotionally unavailable workaholic. The list could go on.
Is it any wonder that as men we find it difficult to talk about love?
You May Be Broken But You Are Still Worthy Of Love.As men, we can internalize our feelings. We can isolate ourselves from others believing that we are alone in our struggles. We know of our own shameful behavior. We can carry deep wounds inflicted by those charged with loving and… Click To Tweet
On this blog we will discover how men can do a better job loving ourselves and others.
Together, we will learn how to advocate for those in need, identify and seek healing for our wounds, forgive ourselves and others, and to discuss the #MeToo movement without causing additional harm. We will explore the impact of how our family of origin has impacted who we are as men. We will discover the practical steps and resources available to us on this journey. Your story is important and needs to be told.
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What is one thing you can do this week to begin this journey of loving yourself and others?