Sometimes the legal system’s pursuit of justice and the Church’s emphasis on forgiveness can cause them both to neglect the rights of victims. Give me a few minutes and I will show you what I mean.
For the Broken and By the Broken
Somedays, it feels like I’m living in a broken world, surrounded by broken people, and all I want to do is be a little less broken today than I was yesterday.
And like you, there are days I ask myself, can the broken be made whole? Is it possible to find a place of safety and refuge for the broken? Is it possible to restore the health of the exhausted caregiver? I believe the answer is yes to these questions, but how do we accomplish this?
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We are surrounded by broken people longing to be a little less broken today than they were yesterday. I am one of these broken people. Perhaps you are as well.