I’m Darrell Proctor, the founder of LoveIsBroken, a speaker, writer, and advocate for individuals who experience debilitating shame, PTSD, and other mental disorders due to sexual abuse, sexual assault, and domestic violence.
Somedays, it feels like I’m living in a broken world surrounded by broken people, and all I want to do is be a little less broken today than I was yesterday.
And like you, there are days I ask myself, can the broken be made whole? Is it possible to find a place of safety and refuge for the broken? Is it possible to restore the health of the exhausted caregiver? I believe the answer is yes to these questions, but how do we accomplish this?
My goal is to love others well, to create and communicate strategies that help churches become places where grace is freely given without shame, and where we demonstrate the unconditional love we have received from the one who was broken for us. I believe that together, we can make a difference.
For many years I was a jerk who thought he had all the answers. I served the local church, studied the bible, and shared my dogmatic positions with anyone who would listen. Looking back, I now see that I was working on a master’s degree in self-righteousness and a doctorate in self-pity.
I discovered that I did not have all the answers. In many ways, I was asking the wrong questions.
My journey through doubt, anger, fear and suffering led me to a stronger, more vibrant faith in God. Slowly but surely, He began to change me, and He is not finished with me yet.
So, If you are looking for a blog where the author has all the correct answers and has it all together, you are in the wrong place.
However, if you are looking for a safe place where doubt is a normal part of faith honest questions are encouraged and applauded; you are in the right place.
If this describes you, you are not alone. You have found your tribe. Welcome to LoveIsBroken.
I post once a week, on Monday mornings.
Here are a few unique things that separate me from other speakers and writers.
I love humor and am often put on JOKE PROBATION by those who know me best.
I did not talk until I was three years old, and some days, my friends wonder if I will ever stop.
I was raised in Dallas and spent weekends in the country. I have a unique mix of urban and country accents.
Some people hate going to hospitals. I love it. I have been visiting the sick in hospitals since I was four years old.
I have a heart for the misfit—the person who doesn’t fit into the traditional church because I didn’t fit in either.
Maybe you can relate to that experience.
I know what it is like to be in debilitating physical, mental, and spiritual pain.
My neck surgery in 2017 led me to deal with a PSTD and a more profound spiritual awakening. I am still on that journey.
This experience has opened my heart to those who suffer from shame.
I have been married for over thirty-eight years to my best friend. I have an adult son, daughter, daughter-in-law, and granddaughter who bring me tremendous joy.
My background and qualifications.
I serve because I believe in the Church’s mission, ideals, and people, imperfect as they may be. I believe my experience as a paid staff, a volunteer, and serving alongside my bi-vocational father gives me a unique perspective on the church and its ministries.
In the early years of our marriage, I worked vocationally as an Associate Pastor. After our first child was born, I transitioned into the secular workforce, and I have been serving non-stop as a ministry volunteer for over 30 years.
I have been an Area Director of Life Groups, teacher, public speaker (pulpit supply), and writer in service to the local church.
Musically, I have been in a praise and worship team, sang in Easter pageants with a baby in my arms and a donkey beside me, written and performed my compositions, and was a church pianist.
I am currently a volunteer groups coach at the Woodbridge campus of Chase Oaks.
I am a Stephens Minister, and I am licensed and ordained to preach. I graduated from Dallas Baptist University with a B.A. in Religion and Philosophy. I have completed extensive coursework at Southwestern Theological Seminary.
You can reach me at Proctor@loveisbroken.com with any questions or requests.