If you are looking for a blog where the author has all the right answers and has it all together, you are in the wrong place. If you are looking for someone who will be honest about their struggles but is still hopeful, you are in the right place.
This is a safe place where doubt is a normal part of faith, where honest questions are not only encouraged but applauded, a place where you and I can be honest about who we are and how we feel.
A place where it is safe to express our anger and discontent with God about the difficulties of life but find grace and unconditional love. If this is you, you are not alone. You have found your tribe. Welcome to Love Is Broken.
We live in a broken world with broken people, and all we want is to be a little less broken today than we were yesterday. – Darrell Proctor
I’m Darrell Proctor, a speaker and writer addressing the issues men and women face in a rapidly changing culture.
My life’s purpose is to love others well by creating and communicating strategies that lead to restored relationships with others and God.
I am a passionate advocate for individuals who have been directly or indirectly impacted by bigotry, mental illness, PTSD, sexual abuse/ assault, and the shame that often accompanies these experiences.
These brave survivors are among us, they are numerous, and we must do a better job creating a safe place for them to be heard and to heal. A place where grace without shame is freely given and love is broken for all the right reasons and in all the right ways. I believe that together, we can make a difference.
I post once a week, on Monday mornings.
Here’s a few unique things that separate me from other speakers and writers.
I did not talk until I was three years old, and some days, my friends wonder if I will ever stop.
Some people hate going to hospitals. I love it. I have been visiting the sick in hospitals since I was four years old.
I love humor, and I am often put on JOKE PROBATION by those who know me best.
I’m an introvert, but people think I am an extrovert. My father trained me to function as an extrovert.
I was raised in Dallas and spent weekends in the country. I have a unique mix of urban and country accents.
I know what it is like to be in debilitating physical, mental, and spiritual pain.
My neck surgery in 2017 led me to deal with a PSTD and a more profound spiritual awakening. I am still on that journey. I am a survivor of sexual abuse.
I have a heart for the misfit—the person who doesn’t fit into the traditional church. Because I didn’t fit in either.
I was a self-righteous, judgemental, holier than thou jerk for many years. (I had a Masters’s Degree in Self-righteousness and a Bachelors’s in Self-pity.)
I have been married for over thirty-eight years to my best friend. I have an adult son, daughter, daughter-in-law, and granddaughter who bring me tremendous joy.
My background and qualifications.
I serve because I believe in the Church’s mission, ideals, and people, imperfect as they may be.
I am a Stephens Minister, and I am licensed and ordained and to preach. I am a graduate of Dallas Baptist University with a B.A. in Religion and Philosophy. I have completed extensive coursework at Southwestern Theological Seminary.
I have served as paid staff at a church, and I have been serving non-stop as a volunteer for over 30 years.
I have been an Area Director of Life Groups, teacher, public speaker (pulpit supply), and writer in service to the local church.
Musically, I have been in a praise and worship team, sang in Easter pageants with a baby in my arms and a donkey beside me, written and performed my compositions, and was a church pianist.
I am currently a volunteer Groups-Coach at the Woodbridge campus of Chase Oaks.
I believe my experience as a paid staff, volunteer, and serving alongside my bi-vocational father gives me a unique perspective on the church and its ministries.
I can be reached at Proctor@loveisbroken.com.