I will do everything in my power to avoid going to the doctor when I’m hurt; through trial and error, I have discovered nine ways NOT to treat an injury.
Declaring ” I’m fine” when I am experiencing pain is detrimental to healing.
I found over 40 synonyms listed for the word ‘HURT,’ but ‘FINE’ is not listed. That surprised me. My typical response to any inquiry about my feelings is to say, “I’m fine.” This is especially true when I am hurt.
In obvious discomfort, I have observed other men saying they were fine. A wounded boxer might not be able to stand, walk straight, or see, but he will tell his corner that he is fine.
The axiom, “What doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger,” doesn’t always apply.
Denying an injury occurred does not reduce the pain.
In my early twenties, I was unemployed, with a wife and a six-month-old son, and my father told me he had cancer.
Even though I told everyone I was fine, it was clear that I was not.
Diminishing the severity of the injury does not make it hurt less.
Several years ago, I injured my left leg. I accidentally field goal kicked a 24 pack of coke. It was evident that I had damaged my leg. But I shook it off and kept going.
Dismissing and ignoring the hurt will not make it go away.
I walked 4 miles every day for six weeks before going to the doctor.
Later, I found out that I had broken my ankle in five places, shattered my arch, and torn several ligaments in my foot.
I was not okay.
You would think that my leg injury taught me to speak up and admit when hurt. But unfortunately, I am a slow learner.
I once was heavily bruised by an overly enthusiastic female masseuse. It happened because I couldn’t admit that she was hurting me.
Later, I was so embarrassed by the bruising that I tried to hide it from my wife.
Defensiveness. a lashing out in anger when someone touches an open wound is a sign of infection.
When my wife hugged me, she made contact with my bruises. I winced in pain and pulled away from her in anger.
Deadening the pain due to discomfort.
For many years I believed that acknowledging pain was a weakness.
Then I read about a rare disease called Congenital Insensitivity To Pain (CIPA). It is a disease that causes those affected not to feel physical pain.
The ability to feel no pain may sound fantastic, but it can be dangerous. Pain is an important reminder that not everything is fine, and we should not ignore it.
Designing coping mechanisms becomes as important as the pain itself.
Overmedicating. Over-eating. Binge-watching. Workaholism. Isolation. Anything to numb the pain.
Discovering that coping mechanisms don’t work forever.
And that the coping mechanism was often a bigger problem than the original wound.
Delaying treatment is costly.
What was once a superficial injury is now complex and requires intensive care. For example, my leg injury required a cast, physical therapy, and orthopedic shoes.
How are you treating your injuries? Do you want to be made whole?
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