Every day, it seems, there is a news article on faith deconstruction, focusing on individuals who have renounced or abandoned their Christian faith. Perhaps you,… Read More »Faith deconstruction or reconstruction? 7 things you need to know.
Even if you’ve never written down your core values before, I can show you how to do it in less than 15 minutes. I can… Read More »How to Easily Identify Your Core Values in 15 minutes
I’ve spent years looking for resources for church leaders involved in care ministries that addressed trauma, abuse, and mental illness. But, unfortunately, the silence on… Read More »RESOURCES FOR CHURCH LEADERS: 13 VOICES TO FOLLOW IN CARE MINISTRIES
I remember the first time someone asked for my help in overcoming their fear of hospitals. We were standing outside the front entrance to the… Read More »Fear Of Hospitals: Can Someone Please Save Me From This Phobia?
We will look at five common PTSD myths that some in the Church have accepted as truth and present evidence to help us separate fact… Read More »5 PTSD Myths the Church Needs to Stop Believing Today.
Singles Ministry. These two words can strike fear into the heart of many ministers and congregations in America. Ask your local Church to describe what the… Read More »Singles ministry errors: 3 ways the church has caused unintentional harm
As a care minister, I have spent most of my adult life working with people who need physical and emotional healing. I have spent countless… Read More »8 epic truths that physical wounds can show us about emotional healing.
What can we do to help others and ourselves when grief is unbearable, especially now when we seem to be suffering from an endless series of escalating losses?
You’ve undoubtedly read many stories concerning sexual abuse in the church, but you’ve probably read a lot less about sexual abuse and the church. The… Read More »Sexual Abuse and the Church: 21 ways to help and not harm
Why should you listen to what I have to say about male sexual abuse survivors? That’s an excellent question, and I’m glad you asked. I am… Read More »MALE SEXUAL ABUSE SURVIVORS: 7 Interesting differences between the genders.
Sometimes the legal system’s pursuit of justice and the Church’s emphasis on forgiveness can cause them both to neglect the rights of victims. Give me a few minutes and I will show you what I mean.
The use of non-disclosure agreements by Christian ministries has come under scrutiny due to their misuse in covering up financial and sexual scandals. I wonder what Jesus would think about the use of non-disclosure agreements in the church today?
You might object if I told you that your story matters and needs to be shared. However, I believe that there are four compelling reasons why this true.
I know that it might sound strange, but sometimes gallows humor can empower abuse survivors and others to manage the stress of a seemingly hopeless situation
Why do we feel lonely? If you’re like the majority of us, you’ve had this silent dialogue with yourself. Why do I feel lonely? Why,… Read More »Why do we feel lonely? 4 Common causes and powerful solutions
Some people believe that writing an apology letter is a waste of time. They quickly point out three perceived errors in the process. One, writing… Read More »AN APOLOGY LETTER: MOST PEOPLE MAKE THESE 6 STUNNING MISTAKES
Deadly silence. That is the sound heard in many churches when faced with emotional abuse, domestic violence, and sexual abuse. I know there are exceptions. Some… Read More »DEADLY SILENCE OF THE CHURCH ON ABUSE: 5 SINFUL EXCUSES.
A look at the local news or social media shows another account of a sexual assault, domestic violence, or sexual abuse. Most of us will… Read More »Abuse: A look at 9 simple and powerful actions
Do you know the difference between a sexual assault survivor and sexual abuse survivor? These two terms have been in the news prominently in the… Read More »SEXUAL ASSAULT AND SEXUAL ABUSE SURVIVOR 101: what you need to know